on Derek Croteau is a sought-after public speaker, educator, consultant and writer. But it wasn't always this way. For years, he struggled to come to terms with his identity as a homosexual man, fighting an internal battle that manifested as anorexia, bulimia and obsessive running. In My Thinning Years: Starving the Gay Within, Croteau details his quest to craft an idealized version of the all-American male — one that his abusive father found acceptable. Fast-forward to the present, and you'll find Croteau living in Vermont with his husband, having created a life in sync with his true self.